A Girl Loses Her Father: Baby Veronica Adoption Finalized by South Carolina

For Veronica, who has been callously adopted against the wishes of her paternal family.

Life, Adopted

For Veronica
It is okay to feel confused.
It is okay to feel angry.
It is okay to feel resentful.
It is okay to feel betrayed.
It is okay to feel abandoned.
It is okay to feel disconnected.
It is okay to feel lost.
It is okay to feel like a pawn.
It is okay to feel that something was taken from you.
It is okay to feel you had no control.
It is okay to feel that your voice was silenced.
It is okay to feel that the system completely failed you.
All of these feelings are completely normal under the circumstances.
You are adopted. But you are not alone. You are not the only one.
Your fellow adoptees will be here when you need us.
We will listen.
We will understand.
We will support you.
We will lift you up.
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How much did you cost? The literal price of adoption.

This is a question I first encountered being asked over on the AAAFC boards some time ago. Sadly that thread has since been lost, so I thank @TransracialEyes for asking the question again in a more publicly accessible setting. 🙂

Transracialeyes

Now that the crowdfunding craze has caught up with adoption, it is normal within adoption mediation to talk about “sticker shock” concerning the price of adopting children. I realize that just once I would like to see an article that discusses our shock at how much we set our adoptive parents back.

In my case, outside of airfare between Iran and Lebanon (where my adoptive father was working at the time), I have a cancelled check for $300 in among my paperwork. This was a “gift donation” to the orphanage, though everyone I talk to was basically shaken down in a similar way, and these “gifts” were expected to continue beyond the date of adoption, and were often a yearly contribution at Christmas or our birthdays.

$300 in 1963, adjusted for inflation [inflation calculator] is $2,283.77. I think I was pretty much a bargain, compared to today’s adoptions.

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